I love children. Or, at least I thought I loved children. Turns out, I pretty much only love my child and the children of my closest friends. Sometimes I meet other children I like but I also meet a lot of children that I don’t like so much. I know, I know, some of you will read this and you’ll think I sound like Cruella de Ville but c’mon… we have ALL thought this at some point in time.
Case in point, I’m sitting at this cafe this morning that has a play area for kids and I’m with a new friend that I met through this site and her little guy (who I LOVED and thought was so squishy and adorable) and we’re chatting and this mom comes in with her little girl. I can usually tell within a few minutes whether or not I’m going to want a new kid around my kid. This little girl had a runny nose and zero boundaries — two things that I can’t stand in other people’s kids (OPKs).
The little girl came up to my friend’s baby and had her hands all over her son’s soother and was touching him and the entire time, I was cringing. She didn’t say anything to me afterward but it bothered me to the point where I watched Willow like a hawk to make sure that the little girl didn’t put her hands on Willow or touch a toy and then Willow touch it afterward. I know. You’re sitting there thinking, “This is totally a first child attitude” but you know what? Teach your kids some freakin’ boundaries!
I am so boundary aware in my every day life that I teach Willow to do the same. If she goes toward another kid’s bowl of snacks, I stop her. I make her ask the parents if it’s okay but usually, I just pull out her own snack and feed that to her. If she goes toward a baby, I tell her not to touch but to wave and say hi from afar. If she is all up in another kid’s business, I tell her to move back a little and give the other kid some breathing room.
If you are the kind of parent who allows your kid to do whatever they want without setting boundaries, stop! For the love of all things in this world, STOP. Teach your children boundaries and teach them manners. You might have to say “no” a whole lot more than you might like but guess what, they’ll at least be more self-aware and they’ll start to learn that the entire world isn’t their oyster and that they just can’t take whatever they want.
Your child is not so incredibly awesome and cute that they won’t annoy other people. There is a good chance that they will and when you see other parents around, tensing their jaws and giving a curt, polite smile that really says, “Get-your-kid-away-from-my-kid-and-why-the-hell-are-they-even-in-public-with-this-runny-nose?!” take a hint! Bring them home, give them some cuddles but keep them far away from my kid.
What do you think? Do you think boundary-less children need to be taught to have stronger boundaries? Weigh in in the comments below!