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No Regrets, But No Time

No Regrets, But No Time

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I love being a mom, I would never change it, not for a bazillion dollars! But there are things I miss. Today I just wanted to talk about the thing I miss the most. I also want to know do you miss anything specific since becoming a mom or if you are not a mom yet are you afraid of missing something specific?

I miss time. I miss my time. I miss how I could do what I wanted when I wanted, around basic commitments obviously. Does this return as kids get older?! I always have a laundry list of things to do including work, cleaning, laundry, even my husband!! I may be bad at time management some days, but I really feel that my life right now is very restricted and its hard to have a shower some days!

This can’t last forever right?! At what age did you start to feel back in control of your own life and time? Maybe it’s worse because I work from home, is it different for you moms who work out of home?

Although there might not be enough hours in a day and my kids might be more demanding some days than others, I believe there is an end in sight. I know it will never go back to how it was before kids, but a compromise of time would suit my sanity better!

I look forward to hearing your thoughts!

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  1. Fiona Monday - 26 / 11 / 2012 Reply
    I so agree with you Nina and I definetly miss my time as well, I love my little man to the ends of the earth but he sure does consume most of my time. I could spend the whole day playing with him and not get a thing done.
    • Nina Tuesday - 27 / 11 / 2012 Reply
      Fiona I agree!!!!! and on days that it seems so crazy I think they are only this young once! Hope to see your lil man soon!
  2. Kathie Potvin Tuesday - 27 / 11 / 2012 Reply
    This is what they mean when they say once you have children your life changes forever. For stay at home moms the first five years you have no life of your own. You have between 8 pm and 10 pm for you (but your husband wants attention) Once they are in school full time you have a bit of a breather as you can can have some time for you between 9 and 3 most days. However that is when you usually get all the household chores done. Your nights are spent running around to all those swimming , karate, hockey, dancing, and gymnastic lessons. When they reach their teens parents are not cool but they do want all your money for cool things. By age of majority they only see you on holidays and when they want something. This is when you want to talk and know how they are doing and what is going on in their lives. You love it when they give you some of their time. They marry and their life is totally devoted to their own family, calling you occasionally just to talk. The circle is complete and you sit and remember those first five years with happiness and love. So my advice .... forget the laundry and spend your time on the floor playing with these little ones, giggling and being silly, for this is what they and you will always remember.
  3. Lynda Tuesday - 27 / 11 / 2012 Reply
    Kathie said it perfectly. Although I must say...... two things I miss most. first is mommy & daddy time....I swear kids come with sensors (if you know what I mean) secondly.... I miss going out for a relaxing dinner just my hubby and me. otherwise?.. all is good. We wanted children and you deal with whatever that brings. good or bad and in between.
    • Erin
      Tuesday - 27 / 11 / 2012 Reply
      Lynda, I love your comment (and Kathie's too!) We love being parents and will often say no to a lot of alone time opportunities (weekends away, etc.) because we waited a long time to have Willow and now we just want to enjoy her and be parents. We did a lot before she came along that I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. HOWEVER... I do wish that I had more me time simply because I work full-time and parent full-time and also run OVM so time is something I don't have and is a super huge luxury for me. But... I know it will come back to me and until then, I'm enjoying the blissful chaos.
  4. Crystal Tuesday - 27 / 11 / 2012 Reply
    I totally agree Nina! I love my kiddo's but I miss just being able to go and do what I want sometimes. I find when I do get that time to spend on myself, I end up feeling guilty for taking it, or rushed to get home etc, which I know is not right!
  5. Nina Tuesday - 27 / 11 / 2012 Reply
    Thanks for all the comments, and Lynda, I am learning to love the good the bad and the in between and accepting it as is! I love hearing comments from grandparents as well because they have been through all this long ago and learned so much. Any advice or support is always accepted although not always followed ;) It is great to hear!

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