My daughter LOVES headbands, almost always has one on. So guess who else likes to wear them? My son. I have a 5 year old daughter and a 17 month old son. His big sister is the world to him! I would almost dare say, a close fave person. So because he looks up to her and loves her so, he watches and imitates her to no end! If he sees her with a pretty, flowery headband on, he wants one too. And, I give him one and let him walk about with it on.
My little chubby, rough and tumble boy also loves to play with Barbies, Princess computer, jewellery, brushes, make up, and ‘read’ my daughters girlie books. Don’t get me wrong, he plays with trucks and tractors. But he also loves his sisters stuff, which is as girlie as it gets.
The thing is, I don’t care. I always thought I would. My daughter loves pink, loves Princesses and fairies, make up and dress up. She is as girlie as it comes. I encouraged her right from the get go as I too, love those things both as a kid and now, and I wanted her to like it as well. When we found out that we were having a boy, I bought construction crib bedding and nursery decor, ‘tough like Daddy’ and rock ’n roll themed clothes and bibs. I wanted the opposite of my daughter, the boys boy like my husband. Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t think there was anything wrong with boys being feminine, but wanted my little man to love tractors and trucks like his Daddy. So I am surprised how much I really don’t care that he likes to play with more female gender oriented toys. I will likely (with my husband shaking his head) be that Mom who paints her sons nails because he sees us doing it and not think twice.
In this day and age, does it really matter if my son likes to wear a headband from time to time? No, I don’t think so. The thing is, he is still so young he doesn’t know what ‘gender orientation’ even is. So what should it matter. Even later on, as he grows, I will let him make the choices of what he wants to wear and play with or do (sports, activities, profession etc). I can only hope that society will have evolved even more than it has already, so that whatever his wishes are as a young adult, they are welcomed and not shunned.
Wednesday - 22 / 08 / 2012